In my neighborhood, an American couple lives with their daughter. She is 10-12 years old and is suffering with Cerebral Palsy. She is bed ridden. I don't know much about her condition, but I have seen her while going to hospital on the stretcher. I can see how dependent is she on her parents and care givers.
When you hear other's problems, you think your problems are not so much problem. My son is having Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and I used to feel bad about my situation. Sometimes, I feel very helpless when I am not able to help my son when he is with me. When I heard about my neighbor, I felt their helplessness. They are trying their best for their daughter, whatever they can.
Two days before, some incident happened to the girl. I heard father shouting at somebody on the phone. I was wondering why he is shouting too much. I am not sure what was happened, but I am sure that somebody (nurse, doctor or hospital staff) carelessly handled his daughter and he was demanding to dismiss that person.
His words were - "I don't care, I don't care", "I want to dismiss", "I don't hear you, I don't hear you", "you just say yes, you just say yes", "that's it, that's it", "I don't care, I don't care", "you care about you, I care my daughter", "Do you hear me, I want to dismiss", "I don't care". When he was shouting and screaming on the phone, I felt his helplessness.
When we are there with our kids and we are unable to help them to live and enjoy the life, we are helpless. We try very hard to give them everything they need, but still we know that we also have our own limitations. We won't be there all the time with them.
One of my aunt's son was mentally challenged. She took a good care for him almost 20 years and after that she put him in special hostel for few days. There, suddenly he slipped in the bathroom and got injured. He later died. I can understand my aunt's helplessness.
My other aunt had a son having addiction of alcohol. She tried very hard to get him recover. He married and had one son too. But, he didn't leave alcohol. My aunt tried a lot, but she couldn't. She died. Then her son was sent to rehabilitation institution for treatment, but no use. He later died. I can feel my aunt's feelings when she was alive.
After hearing my neighbor's conversation on phone, so many thoughts came to my mind. My heart was filled with sorrow and helplessness. As a parent, we want best things for our kids, but when we fail to give them a good life, we feel helplessness.
Have you felt helplessness any time?
When you hear other's problems, you think your problems are not so much problem. My son is having Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and I used to feel bad about my situation. Sometimes, I feel very helpless when I am not able to help my son when he is with me. When I heard about my neighbor, I felt their helplessness. They are trying their best for their daughter, whatever they can.
Two days before, some incident happened to the girl. I heard father shouting at somebody on the phone. I was wondering why he is shouting too much. I am not sure what was happened, but I am sure that somebody (nurse, doctor or hospital staff) carelessly handled his daughter and he was demanding to dismiss that person.
His words were - "I don't care, I don't care", "I want to dismiss", "I don't hear you, I don't hear you", "you just say yes, you just say yes", "that's it, that's it", "I don't care, I don't care", "you care about you, I care my daughter", "Do you hear me, I want to dismiss", "I don't care". When he was shouting and screaming on the phone, I felt his helplessness.
When we are there with our kids and we are unable to help them to live and enjoy the life, we are helpless. We try very hard to give them everything they need, but still we know that we also have our own limitations. We won't be there all the time with them.
One of my aunt's son was mentally challenged. She took a good care for him almost 20 years and after that she put him in special hostel for few days. There, suddenly he slipped in the bathroom and got injured. He later died. I can understand my aunt's helplessness.
My other aunt had a son having addiction of alcohol. She tried very hard to get him recover. He married and had one son too. But, he didn't leave alcohol. My aunt tried a lot, but she couldn't. She died. Then her son was sent to rehabilitation institution for treatment, but no use. He later died. I can feel my aunt's feelings when she was alive.
After hearing my neighbor's conversation on phone, so many thoughts came to my mind. My heart was filled with sorrow and helplessness. As a parent, we want best things for our kids, but when we fail to give them a good life, we feel helplessness.
Have you felt helplessness any time?
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